Hoping everyone out there had a good Christmas and New Year. It's back to work now and time to think about courses for 2013. In fact it is that time of year when many of us attempt to make our 'New Year Resolutions'. Perhaps before attempting that it is a good idea to reflect on 2012 first. What went well, what didn't go so well and what would you change if you could.
Ive been reflecting on Communication- with patients and other people generally.
I came across this 'One in Five Rule' in a book by Dr Steve Peters who, as it happens is the resident psychiatrist with the British Cycling and Sky Procycling teams. Victoria Pendleton has described him as 'the most important person in my career'. He has written a book on mind management called 'The Chimp Paradox' An interesting approach!!!
He states that none of us like to be unpopular or misunderstood. True! And if you took five people from the population and asked them if they liked you or understood you, you are likely to get the following reponses:
One will love and understand you - regardless of what you do or say
One will dislike you and not understand you, no matter what you do
Three will be more balanced and weigh you up in an objective manner.
There are going to be a few million people in each of those categories!!!!
I guess we have to accept that there will always be those who do not like us and investing time with them is going to be a waste of time.
Remembering the one in five rule means that we just have to accept this and move on. So one of my new year resolutions is going to be to stop trying to please all the people all of the time! To focus on those who care about me and also to listen to the balanced majority who may have something constructive to say!!!